What’s Love Got to Do With It?

In thinking about February, the month of love, I am compelled to ask you a few questions:

Do you LOVE your life? Do you get up in the morning just raring to go? Have you surrounded yourself with people who inspire you? Do you bring a strong sense of service to your occupation? What impact are you making in your world?

If you answer no, or are unsure, you might think “Wow, I need to make some major changes.” You might even think I would encourage you to do so.

But I wouldn’t.


Nope, I wouldn’t encourage you to change any of your circumstances. It is much simpler than you think. Loving your life is not something that comes from the trappings of your said life. It doesn’t come from your occupation or your workplace. It doesn’t come from your partner. It doesn’t come from the house you live in or the car you drive. I know you’ve heard that before, but do you believe it…deep down?

Loving (and being massively impactful in) your life comes from understanding that your experience is generated moment by moment from the inside. It comes from realizing that the difference between having a mediocre experience and a fantastic experience is directly related to where your head is at in any given moment. And that in fact we are only experiencing anything as a function of our own state of mind.

Most of us don’t factor our own state of mind into the equation of our lives. It looks like the equation already includes things like demanding clients, overwhelming deadlines, a dispassionate partner, or scary cold calls. We don’t see our head space as a variable, at least not one that we can influence. I’ll give you an example:

Prior to having a life altering insight around this, I experienced a brief “downturn” in my business. Except that at the time, it didn’t look like a brief downturn to me. It looked more like a major problem that required massive attention and re-tooling from the outside. So I set about learning some new skills, doing lots of marketing, and spending a ton of time and money attempting to fix something that seemed broken.

About 6 weeks into this mind-numbing process, it was as though a fog lifted. One moment I felt burdened and beaten down; the next I felt light and full of inspiration. I realized that all that had happened was that I evaluated my business from a low state of mind, and that from that low state of mind, I took actions which were at best not necessary, and in some cases, actually made things worse.

And all of a sudden, I fell back in love with my business. Nothing changed within my outside circumstance, yet everything changed in my internal experience. It is much simpler than we think.